Tuesday, November 09, 2010

Downslope

On the downslope!
We are coming to the end of our time at Dave's home. We will soon be heading out of Concord, driving to Southern California to visit with Sister, Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, Nieces and Nephews. We have a bunch of family in Southern California.

We will be visiting with our major support person. My oldest friend, Dave Diamond and his wife Marlyne! John Porter, a very important support person in my life lives in the San Diego area, and I'm not sure if I'll that far south. Pete Olson lives in Sonoma, a bit north of me and I'll likely visit with him next spring.

We will be celebrating Thanksgiving with my Cousins Jacky and Lloyd. We understand that Cousin Lloyd's daughter is an excellent chef, and will be preparing the Thanksgiving feast!

Midnite - Dave's spa!
Have I mentioned Dave's spa recently? Every nite, without exception, I have cranked up the spa and soaked myself in the 90°F water.

I love soaking in that spa. It's beautiful out there! It's really neat to stand in the spillway, looking down the several feet into the blue pool. As you may imagine, I will be remembering lots of things. Of course I will be remembering always the tragic events about my son, Dave. However, I will be remembering the good things too. And one of those really good things is Dave's spa.
Jorge in Dave's spa

Falsely accused of sex crimes!
I was looking for something in my son Dave's blog, and I stumbled across a blog post written on October 5th, 2009. About one year before my son's suicide.

Blown away by this discovery, I read the title: "Risk of Accusations"

Here is the text of my son Dave's blog post that day:

Monday, October 5, 2009
Risk of Accusations
A reader asked, "In this day, doesn't it worry you about being falsely accused of sex crimes?"

Being a foster parent brings with it certain risks, especially if you’re single and male. However, there are some things that I think help mitigate these risks. For example, making your home and activities open and transparent to friends, neighbors, social workers and the biological parents of the children in your care. Also, the longer your history of successes, the less believable any false accusation will be. At this point, after 15 years and 25 kids, some of which stayed with me for five or more years, why would I start mistreating one now?

Finally, like my father, I don’t want to live in fear and choose not to do a thing that I really want to do just because I am afraid of what might happen. (At least not regarding this topic. I am afraid of doing other things, but I’m working on it!)

This is George writing again: It is incredibly ironic that my son Dave wrote these words. In less than one year after this blog post, he would kill himself because of an accusation. Because like me, he conducted his life without fear of what might happen. And that lack of fear ended his life!

Note: Click [here] to read Dave's post for yourself.