Friday, June 14, 2013

No more!

Dear reader friends,

I have tried my very best. Unfortunately, there are storms that a person is not able to weather. This evening I went thru such a storm.

I shall not ever go thru such a storm again. I am finished with that person. It is done!

So help me God!

George Sheldon Lehrer
14 June 2013


  1. George, it's perfectly OK to divorce someone even if you are not married to them. Divorcing relatives and/or friends is often the best thing we can do for ourselves.

  2. Dear George, I agree with Jan. Having had a very similar situation to yours, I understand how much hurt you've endured trying. The best thing you can do is
    hang with the people who give you the love you need. Putting yourself in a position to be repeatedly hurt doesn't help you or the other person. He is making the choice. Maybe, down the road, he will have regrets, but he will know that the choice was his. Hope you have some good times with friends---like Pete?---while you're there in California.

  3. All you can do George is love the person from afar. No need to interact. I too have a loved one, my sister, who chose to divorce me but I think about her everyday and love her from afar. I still send holiday cards, birthday cards just to let her know I still think of her and love her even if don't see or hear from her. My therapist told me divorce is like the death of a family member...we need to grieve and then move on.

  4. What's that expression? "You can choose your friends, but not your relations"? Something like that. I think I would change it out for the word "relatives", but that's just splitting hairs.
    We all have seem to have at least one. A nasty person, a bitter person, a *crazy* person?
    Just best to be avoided.
    Stick around with the folks who appreciate your good company, and leave it at that.
    Some of whom may be complete strangers....

  5. My heart goes out to you, George. We all have "chronic heartaches" in our lives. I find comfort in Viktor Frankl's advice that while we can't change the situation, we can chose how we react to it.

  6. I wanted desperately to make peace with my Mother ... she died at 96.5 years of age. I spent two years being obsequious to the point of my becoming depressed.

    I finally said as you just said .... I'm done. It still hurts but there wasn't a damn thing more I could have done ... and I'm at peace with that.

    My heart goes out to you, George.

    Shakespeare's ... How sharper than a serpent's tooth it is to have a thankless child! ... is right on...

    In my case ... a clueless Mother. The pain of 'why' lingers until ... so help me god, I'm done is truly realized and practiced.

  7. Sorry to hear that, George. I know you tried your very best. We live in a fallen world where not everything works out well. I'm sure you don't want to hear this right now but never say never. Its ok to backup, re-group, take some time off and see how you feel next month or next year. Don't be in a hurry. If it was ever meant to happen it will in its own good time.

  8. I'm so sorry it didn't work out. But you had to try and that is all anyone could do. Now you know and won't be wondering. There are lots of nice people to spend time with. Onward!

  9. Well that's a kick in the pants, but at least you know you tried.... Be done with it.......!

  10. George, do you see the loving family you have here? These comments are representative of the many more out there who think of you as family?

    I wish we could have a Tioga George reunion somewhere where we could all come together and have some food, fun, and fellowship together with George.

  11. Once you cool off, take another look.

  12. Sorry to hear it didn't work out :(.....

    Let it rest, go have some fun

  13. Fell into a rabbit hole and landed here. Move on and Be happy!

  14. I fell into a rabbit hole and landed here, all I can say is don't let that person live rent free in your head. Move on and be happy, Wishing all the best!

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